Happy Fathers Day #IHate2015

If you aren’t into sadz, then don’t read this one… or maybe you should?

I HAS A SADZHow it started

Let me start out by quoting a draft of a blog post that I titled “Welcome”.
I will never publish that blog…

“December 15th, 2014, at 8:40 AM

That’s when I first found out about you. I am typing this only a few moments after. I don’t know if you are a boy or girl. A single or twins. I don’t even know if you will be born or if you will pass in the womb.

I was at work, I usually cannot answer the phone, but happened to be staring at my phone when it rang. Your moms voice was clearly shaking as she tried to tell me. She was slowly choosing her words and I thought she got in a car accident. I wasn’t expecting this news.

I am excited at the opportunity to meet you. I truly hope I will, but, just the opportunity is amazing grace. Should we meet, I have big plans for you. Plans to raise you up on my shoulders. To shape you into your personal best. To help you realize all the potential that is now locked inside a microscopic clump of just a few cells.

For now, I wipe my tears and return to work. Except now I work with thoughts of you.”

I planned to finish and publish that once we made it public that Mallory (my wife) was pregnant. It was a couple days before Christmas ’14 and we told Mallory’s parents and my mom that we were expecting in a funny Christmas card. We all laughed and cried. Even Christmas Eve, as the whole family gathered Mallory and I made eye contact, sharing the joy knowing we would one day soon tell all of our family the good news.

Christmas morning Mallory woke up and was feeling ill. She had stomach pains and I was tending to her. With my medical background I was pretty sure what was happening. Mallory wasn’t sure. We were both silent, not sure how to react. The family all met that day but we stayed home, telling them that Mal was ill and I was taking care of her. We got blood testing a couple days later that confirmed that the baby was gone.

I know we cried at some point, but mostly we suppressed. We decided to start looking for a cheap foreclosure and get out of our house and make a fresh start. Surprisingly, our first lowball offer on our first house was accepted and we would be moving in 2 weeks.

Katie Lynn

We moved into the new house and were repairing it while living there. We had our trusty dog Katie with us along with a unexpected cat (more on that later). If you don’t already then you should now know a little bit about Katie.

Katie Leaps

You have undoubtedly heard so many people say that their dog was the greatest dog. There are many extraordinary dogs. I humbly, and as honest as I can be, contest that Katie is better than all of them. If my claims are true then there is not enough space here for me to type out all of the proof. Let me just say that Katie was an unconditional lover. She understood the English language perfectly well. She also had an E.T. like etconnection to Mallory to where if Mallory was getting sad then Katie would come running in from the other room and jump on her, nip at her, even drag her by the cuff of her pants until Mallory would be forced to abandon sad thoughts to ‘deal with’ Katie. Then once Mallory was better Katie would go lay down.

Katie Ice CreamWe were told in 2012 that Katie had cancer and had a fewKatie Cahill months to live. The story of how she was still with us at this time is a post in its own. Yet here in the new house, Katie’s Cancer returned. Mallory and I nursed her as best we could. We savored every second and did all of her favorite things in those last weeks.

Katie Kiss

Katie's Last Hug

In August of 2015 we lost her.

Paid Our Dues

I’m not sure why timing works out the way it does, but it does. We found out a couple weeks later that we were expecting again. We were hardly breathing again from losing Katie and this added more emotion to our lives. A few days later I lost my job. I don’t think I should have lost my job, but I was so distracted at that time, maybe I did deserve it. Luckily for me there are many job openings and I could be working again shortly.

By November 1st I had several job offers to consider. I was trying to put off picking one because I was trying to get the house ready for a baby. Also, my uncle who normally hosts family Christmas had a terrible house fire and we had the next most suitable house to host. I took the time off of work to really get our house ready.  As Thanksgiving was approaching I had selected a job and was ready to start soon. This really lifted my spirits as well as I remember Mallory coming home and telling me that she was able to see the baby’s heart beat on her ultrasound machine at work.

It was the Wednesday before Thanksgiving Day and we had our first official ultrasound scheduled. Mallory had been feeling fine this whole time. We both smiled brightly as the image of our child came on the screen.

baby #2

Then Mallory’s smile left. She, feigning ignorance, asked the ultrasound technician, “How early do you see the heartbeat?” I remember thinking, give her a chance, we already know there is a heart beat. But there wasn’t. I sent a private message to the few family members that knew.


You know what’s funny. This one was worse, but not for the reasons that you would think. I felt like we paid our dues. After all, I knew ~25% of all pregnancies would never see a live birth. Our chances were 1 in 4 that we would lose the first one. Somehow I just figured that it was our turn to lose one the first time, and now it was supposed to be our time to do what everyone else was able to do. It wasn’t. A 1-in-4 chance is a 1-in-4 chance, every time.

Alex TC

An Unexpected Cat

We were still in our first house when we met Alexander The Cat (Alex TC). We were walking in to the house from the car when this scrawny ferrel cat began weaving in between Mallory’s legs and purring. She noticed it was under weight and had an apparent large infection on his back. She put some food out for him to help him gain weight.

The next day we had the front door propped open to carry in groceries and Alex walked into our living room. I posted this video to see if he was anyone’s missing cat.

My wife knew he was a wild cat. We kept it in a dog crate overnight and Mal took him to work the next day (she works at a veterinary hospital). He was treated for fleas and for the infected abscess the size of a golfball on his back. He weighed 6 lbs. He was going to stay at the hospital for a couple weeks to get healthy, then get fixed, then released.

We brought him home and, well, many of you can guess what happened. My wife wanted to keep him. I tried to resist but… well… this happened….

Alex gif

We got him up to a normal weight of 12.5 lbs. He was a super loving cat. Alex saw us through losing Katie. He saw us through losing our second child. I think he may be the only thing that kept my wife together on the real bad days. Just after Christmas he stopped eating. Mallory took him into work and it turns out that he swallowed a whole almond (we had many out from hosting Christmas dinner) and it was stuck. They would do surgery to remove it.

This was a very common surgery at Mals work. They did them all the time. They always were routine and uneventful. So was Alex’s… except minutes after the surgery Alex suddenly died. We would later find out that he had a genetic heart condition and would have probably already died on the streets if he hadn’t been so well cared for the last 8 months. What a double edged sword for us all.

Which Brings Us To The Present

I started working again in February. Other than that we pretty much stopped doing everything else. I think we spent 4 months just letting it soak in. We had many bad days. In May it was finally real enough to know we had a problem. We started seeing a grief counselor who has been tremendously helpful.

Now it is Fathers Day 2016. My wife and my mother-in-law both wished me happy Fathers Day. It means more than I can express. Me and my wife also have necklaces that our brother John made us that say ‘Mother’and ‘Father’, respectively, in Elvish. These mean the world to us.

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In closing I would like to say 3 things,

  1. #IHate2015
  2. If you know anyone struggling with miscarriage, infertility, abortion, or any other parenting struggles.. just be there for them. The man as well as the woman. Don’t be afraid to ask how it is going and then just listen. You can’t fix anything but you can help carry the burden
  3. Please stop asking people when are they going to have kids. Either them or someone in ear shot may be triggered to feel something you don’t want them to.

Hello , My Name Is Titan!

2015-11-10, my name is Titan. My life has been quite the adventure! It’s been 15 or 20 years since I was born (2-3 human years) and I don’t remember too much from back then. The last thing I remember is angry dogs… a lot of angry dogs. They always wanted to fight me and, unfortunately, their humans encouraged that sort of behavior. I could never fight though; I’m a lover at heart. Put on a good movie and let’s curl up on the couch… now that’s a great night!


The guy that would try to get me to fight eventually gave up on me. He tried to put me in an abandoned house and when he walked away I tried to follow him. I love humans. He put me back in the house and blocked me in. This was very near the end of my story.

As luck would have it, a lady across the street saw the guy dump me in the abandoned house and she called PROUD Detroit. A very nice lady from PROUD came and pet me! Even though it was Detroit in the middle of the night and she was pregnant, she stayed watching over me all night. The next morning more people from PROUD came and took me to the hospital. I was too sick to walk and they had to carry me, luckily for them I was about 20 pounds under weight at the time.

The nice doctor lady said I almost didn’t make it. Apparently I had a huge infection in my neck and was very dehydrated. I also have heart worms…. I love company, just not that kind of company. They cleaned me up and found out I was actually white, not grey.Titan

They started treating me right away and one of the nice hospital people took me home so she could keep a close eye on me. I didn’t do much for the first day but then I started eating and drinking a lot. It seems like I have gotten better every day since then. Really, I have the perfect life… well, except one thing. I don’t have a home. I have a house that I stay at, but these are foster parents and they are needed to rescue dogs that are sick like I was. I need a forever family.

I love people. I like to eat and drink. I love people. I like to play. I love people. I like to go for 2015-11-09 00.42.12walks. Did I mention I love people? Big people, little baby people, all kinds of people! I like other dogs too.

The one thing I don’t like is cats… I mean I like cats… usually with a little gravy on top, but people don’t like when I eat the cats. So kids are a good home, and dogs are a good home, but if you have cats it is probably not the home for me.

I’m looking pretty good these days. Most of my scars have healed from those fights. My softball size infection is completely gone. My heart worms have been given an eviction notice. I bet we could take awesome pictures together. Having trouble with the ladies? Not to brag but I am a chic magnet. Get lonely at night? I love to cuddle and protect. This could be the start of a beautiful friendship!


Contact PROUD Detroit at http://www.proudinthed.org/

or on facebook at https://www.facebook.com/PROUDintheD/

You can see more cute picture of me on Pet Finder2015-11-09

Cleveland, Ohio – My Favorite Things

Growing up in Detroit we always referred to Cleveland as “The Mistake By The Lake.” Their rebuttal is “At least We’re Not Detroit.” Touche.

Me and the Missus like to take weekend road trips from Detroit to regional destinations, so it was only a matter of time before we ended up in Cleveland. Even the dirtiest mine has some gems hiding. Here are the gems we found.

Gem #1

There is a restaurant chain in Ohio call The Melt. The menu consists of many different grilled cheese sandwiches. On our first trip we got the bacon mac & cheese grilled cheese. It was to die for. They also have rotating seasonal menu, many craft beers on draft along with meads and ciders. We don’t go to Ohio without stopping at Melt.

You’re drooling. I’m not sorry.

The only bad thing I have to say is the wait. It is often an hour+. The bar is FCFS, we have been lucky with a little hovering and have never had to wait too long.

Gem #2

We got a local to clue us in to Bar Cento. Wow! They had a good selection of draft beer, 300 bottled beers (!), and a huge wine selection. This may be the broadest selection I have seen in one building.

Belgian Fries!

The food here is top notch. Order anything with confidence. My personal favorite are the Belgian style fries: fried twice in duck fat with garlic and rosemary. My mouth is watering while I write this.

Since they were voted best pizza in Ohio by Food Network and Zagat, I should probably mention their pizza. We sampled 4 of them and they were all amazing, including the Sunnyside which won all the awards (runny egg yolks, provolone, and house made pancetta on a thin crust). Don’t deprive yourself of this place if you are visiting Cleveland.

It is in the Ohio City neighborhood, which is full of many other gems as well like the West Side Market, Koffie Cafe, The Flying Fig, and…

Gem #3

Most awarded porter of all time


…award winning Great Lakes Brewery.

You can take a tour here and see how the beer is made and get 25 cent samples at the end.  They also have a brewpub.

Protip: go here for the beer, not the food.


On top of this there is the Rock & Roll Hall Of Fame which we never visited.  The Botanical Garden we never visited. Museums and playhouses we never visited. We did go to the Zoo, it was good, but we have visited 30-40 zoos now and I would say it’s average, nothing more. Good to visit once.

What did we miss? Post a comment below.

This Little Piggy Brings Back Memories

Thanksgiving dinner for my mom’s side of the family is about 30 people. My aunt who hosts makes a turkey. My other aunt brings a ham. My mom brings pies. Lots of other good food is brought by many. Me? Well I bring the relish tray :/

As a kid, most holidays the men in my family would watch TV and talk politics, but I would be in the kitchen with the women of the family watching them cook. You see, I love food; I love cooking. So even when asked to bring a relish tray 4 years ago I wanted to bring a next-level relish tray! I made mozzarella from scratch. I pickled beets.  I stuffed olives with blue cheese and roasted garlic.. It was gourmet to the max! I spent nearly $100 on this one relish tray.

My sister urged me not to forget the canned black olives and baby dill pickles for the kids. By the end of the night the only thing that was eaten was the canned black olives and the baby dills. I spent the next 4 days eating gourmet olives and mozzarella.

By last years Thanksgiving I had learned my lesson and brought only the two above items, watched diligently as they were devoured, and opened a new can/jar as needed to refill the “relish tray.” It was a success, but a hollow one.

This year my aunt who brings the ham would be visiting other family out of town.  Carpe Diem. This was my chance to cook for my family once again! I offered to bring the ham this year and the decision was approved. Most people nowadays grab a Honeybaked ham or something similar, but I had something different in mind.

My Grandmother
My Grandmother

At first I was going to get a fresh ham or even a green ham and cure it and/or smoke it myself. Unfortunately, that would take at least a week (up to a year!) and I didn’t have the time. Then I had another idea. The last few holidays have been rough. We lost my aunt and my grandmother both within days of Christmas. My grandmother used to make ham in a way that was popular over 4 decades ago. I was going to try to recreate this ham recipe.

Terms: Ham – the leg of a pig. Fresh Ham – Ham that hasn’t been cured or smoked. Green Ham – Ham that is cured but not smoked — not the Dr. Seuss kind served with green eggs.

Without further ado, here is the recipe.

Rosemary’s Retro Holiday Ham

Buying a Ham.

You should buy a ham that is fully cooked like this 15.98 lb beauty from Dearborn Brand. I say no glaze. We are going to make our own glaze. I also say not sliced. As much as you might think you love spiral sliced, 1) it dries out the ham during warming, 2) it is too thick of slices for sandwiches, 3) it is too thin for eating as a main dish.. like on Thanksgiving.

Yeah, pre-sliced is easier, but so is the drive-thru.

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 The Glaze

You can use anything for a glaze. It probably should include mustard and brown sugar, but it is really all about personal taste. I used…

  1. 1c brown sugar
  2. 12oz root beer
  3. 12 oz cherry cola
  4. 6oz bourbon stout
  5. 3oz whole ginger (pureed in the Ninja with the stout)
  6. 2 tbsp of spicy brown mustard
  7. The juice from one can of pineapple rings (save the rings)
  8. 75% of the juice from a jar of maraschino cherries (save the rest of the juice and the cherries)

Other ingredients you can use: apple juice, peach juice, ginger ale, Dr Pepper, Rock & Rye, other soda-pop, whiskey, orange juice or other citrus, honey, apple cider vinegar, herbs, various hot peppers, etc. The one thing I would not add is salt. Cured hams are plenty salty already.

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My Ingredients. No one will notice a missing sip or two of these ingredients, by the way.

Put all those in a sauce pot, whisk, and bring to a boil, once it boils lower the heat to a simmer and let it reduce uncovered.

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Look how happy that washed ham looks. So happy, but you know what? It probably misses its good friend bacon. So lets fry up some bacon.2014-11-26 17.05.39

Now let’s bring these two back together. Take a knife that is about 1 to 1.5 inches wide.2014-11-26 17.06.58

Now stab the ham -long wise- about 4-6 inches in2014-11-26 17.08.56

Stick your clean finger in the hole to stretch it slightly2014-11-26 17.12.44

Now shove those holes full of bacon! This will be like a diamond mind effect. As you dig through the ham you will stumble upon these little gems.2014-11-26 17.12.49

This part is optional, but I want to inject some juices into the bird. I took the remaining cherry juice and used a 10cc syringe with an 18ga needle. You can just use a store bought injector as well.

Pro-tip: inject about 1cc at each spot, and don’t pull the needle out for 5-10 seconds or else it will just squirt back out. Be patient. Good isn’t always fast.2014-11-26 17.16.39

Now this will be kind of a spice rub. 2 tbsp of spicy brown mustard and some spices, I used about 1 tsp each onion powder, garlic powder, all spice, cinnamon, and paprika (mostly for color). Rub this all over the ham. You can put on a glove if you want or just be ready to wash your hands again.2014-11-26 17.25.01

Some people like to rub the mustard first then sprinkle a rub on. I don’t like doing this because I feel like the spices have to penetrate the mustard first to get through to the meat. You can also use nutmeg, pepper, cayenne, ground mustard, granulated sugar, etc.

Pig meats really love mustard. If you just can’t use mustard for some reason then make sure you use something else to help the spices stick.. like, maple syrup perhaps? Again, no salt.

It should look like this when the rub is done.2014-11-26 17.31.16

Making the diamonds

Use a sharp knife and cut diamonds in the ham by criss-crossing parallel lines. You can go deeper over fat but if it is the meat just barely score it. It will look like this.

2014-11-26 17.33.25Now grab some whole cloves from the spice aisle and put in one at every “intersection” of these diamonds.


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Like so.

Put it in a big bag (or cover some other way) and put the ham in the fridge over night.

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If your timing is like mine, then your glaze will have simmered down to about half of its original volume. Put a lid on it and turn it off. I am leaving mine covered on the stove top over night. You can put it in the fridge if you are more of a germaphobe. Trust me, 200+ degrees plus high osmalality will not let anything grow in this overnight.2014-11-26 17.33.48



We slept-in, which is fantastic. We had chocolate creme coffee, steak & eggs, and some raw juice for brunch 🙂

Sleeping-in is a big part of what makes a holiday a holiday. That and food, so let’s get back to it.

Cooking the Ham
Set the oven to 325F.

Before you touch the ham, drain some pineapple rings and cherries. You want these to dehydrate so that they will brown easily. Ever notice how pizza with vegetable toppings doesn’t brown? That is because of the water content of the veges. Water is the enemy of browning; don’t skip draining these. You could probably sandwich these on several sheets of paper towel to speed this up if you’re crunched for time.

For germaphobes, you can drain these in the fridge over a bowl.

This ham is 16 lbs. You want to cook it for 14 minutes per pound. 16 x 14 = 224 minutes, or 3 hours 44 minutes. That is just an estimate. You really want to cook it to an internal temperature of 145F. I don’t own a digital probe thermometer so I will be using a basic meat thermometer.

Important! Don’t cook it to 160F – 170F like you will find all over the internet. This is the temp for a fresh/green ham. 145F is what you want to heat a pre-cooked ham to.

Take your ham and baste it (or brush it) with your glaze. Make sure you clean your baster/brush immediately with warm water after each use before the syrupy glaze hardens. I also put a cookie sheet on the bottom of the oven with 3 cups of water to add moisture to the oven environment. Now put your ham in on the lowest rack, which is probably the only way it will fit.

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Some call this a dirty oven. I call it seasoned.

You have an option here. Cover the ham in foil if you want a softer/lighter outside. No foil if you want a darker/harder candy shell. I am going to foil for the first 2-3 hours then take off the foil.

Should you baste during cooking? If we were talking about a turkey, I would say no. Opening the oven increases cooking time; increased cooking time dries out the meat. Ham is naturally more juicy and so, unlike poultry,  you are safe to baste. I basted after 1 hour like this…

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…reheat your glaze for a minute so it is thinner and easier to apply. Squirt some glaze on top with a baster then use a brush to spread it around the sides. Make sure you rotate all the way around to ensure a good shell. Replace the foil, close the oven, wash your utensils immediately.

I basted again at the 2 hour mark then recovered with foil.

At the 3 hour mark I removed the ham from the oven and removed the foil. I added another coat of glaze, then started placing the pineapple rings. Put a maraschino cherry inside each pineapple ring with toothpicks. If your glaze is sticky enough you may be able to skip some toothpicks. Just FYI, the temp was 115-120 at the 3 hour mark.

I might have overdone it with the cherries ;)
I might have overdone it with the cherries 😉

Add another coat of glaze to the pineapple rings, then sprinkle some brown sugar on top, then back in the oven it goes — no foil. If there is water left in your cookie sheet/drip pan, remove it. We want dry heat now.

Now at the 3:30 mark I stuck my thermometer in the thickest part of the meat (not by the bone). I am looking for 145F and it was 125F. More glaze, more brown sugar, back in the oven

At the 4:15 mark (half an hour past our estimate) the meat has hit 145F. Turn off the oven but do not touch the ham! Meat needs to rest to reabsorb juices. Ham needs 15-30 minutes, since this is a big ham we are going to wait 30 minutes, which is just about the time it takes to get to my aunts house for dinner.

Oh, one more thing before we pack it up to go. I really like that candy shell, so I am going to take it next level here. The rest of my glaze goes on, then a layer of brown sugar like so.

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Why is it outside on the driveway?

Now, if you have a propane torch you can flambe by sweeping the flame across the topping until the sugar caramelizes. If you don’t you can just set your oven to broil and place it uncovered under the broiler for ~5 minutes… do not take your eyes off of it, once the sugar caramelizes the next step is charcoal. Don’t waste all your effort.

Now I have a propane torch and a broil setting, but I am going to use something else… my favorite cooking utensil, the Red Dragon 500,000 BTU Flame Thrower!

Something tells me my grandmother didn't do this.
Something tells me my grandmother didn’t do this.

It will look like this when it’s done caramelizing.

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enlarged to show texture

Let it cool for a few minutes, cover in new foil, wrap in a blankets, and then put it in a box. This will keep it safe and warm for transport.


When I arrived at my aunt’s house, I started by removing all the pineapple, cherries, and especially the toothpicks.

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You don’t go through all of this effort to just hack the thing any which way. Meat has direction. Think of a big stack of spaghetti noodles.

This is like the fibers in the meat

If you cut the stack along the length of the noodles you will still have long strings, but if you cut across the noodles you will make a bunch of short bite-size pieces. You will need to find this directional grain in the meat.

Picture quartering an apple. I start by cutting the ham along the top middle right down to the bone. Then down one of the sides to the bone, I then pull away one quarter of the ham and put on a tray to be sliced. See the direction in the meat below?  It more-or-less goes diagonally from bottom-left to top-right. So we will cut perpendicular to that… just like the spaghetti.

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I cut 1/4″ to 1/2″ thick slices, about twice as thick as a spiral sliced ham would be. Once the tray was full I put it next to the rest of the food and waited to see what the reaction would be.

One more thing, try to leave a piece of glazed exterior on each slice!

Final thoughts

I had in my head a scale of 1-10 on how well people would like this ham. 1 would mean people found it inedible. A 10 would be that it was well received. 5 would mean no one noticed that anything was different. I feel like it was an 11 or 12 🙂

I honestly couldn’t be happier with how it turned out. I brought home a nearly empty bone for soup making.

More than the all the good food, it feels so rewarding to help serve people I love. I didn’t serve ham as much as I serve smiles and good memories. Happy Thanksgiving!

There is plenty of time for any of you to put this together for Christmas 😉


Why 6% Interest Is Really 50% Interest

Uncle Pennybags
Uncle Pennybags

I recently graduated with $175,000 USD of debt. I have a lot to say about college debt, how to avoid it, and how to pay it off, but for this post I want to keep it simple.

Let’s say you have a hundred thousand dollars in debt at 6% APR. How much interest will you pay?

The banks want you to believe that it is a tiny 6%; just 6 cents on the dollar. Well that is one way to look at it. Let’s do some math.

$100,000.00 of debt, multiplied by 6% APR….  $100,000 x 0.06 = $6000. So do you pay $6000 interest? Yes and No.

APR means Annual Percentage Rate. Annual being the keyword here. They charge you interest again and again every year. Did you ever think of it this way?

$6000 of interest divided over 12 monthly payments is $500 per month. Your monthly payment will be about $1000 on average, but interest gets paid first. So you pay the bank $1000 and $500 goes to interest and $500 goes to principle.

Did you see that? $500 of your $1000 goes to interest. That’s half! 50% of your money just went to the bank for profit.

There is another way to look at it as well. As you eventually pay more principal balance down then the percent of interest will decrease. Still, if you pay that $1000 every month you will end up giving the bank $135,000 on your $100,000 loan. That is 35% interest.

The bank isn’t bad for selling their product in the most favorable terms, every business does that. But you should know, you will be paying more than the 6%. It is probably most fair to say that a “6% loan” is really a 35% loan.

Why I Bought My Own Cable Modem

Better Service For Less Money. That’s Why.

The only communications company that I hate worse than AT&T is Comcast. Seriously, If you want to be gouged on prices and have the worst quality, most fragmented customer service ever then run to AT&T and sign up. You’ll hate it!

Comcast is evil. Enough said. …what you want more? Okay here.

By the way, you can’t be for net neutrality and still give money every month to Comcast or Verizon, etc. You’d be a hypocrite. You do like Net Neutrality, don’t you? Don’t pay these companies any of your money!

Both of these companies are offered in my area and I have tried them both, and so it is no wonder I have Wide Open West (WOW). WOW hasn’t done anything to make me angry yet but to be honest, their service isn’t the best. Loot at this recent  graph I got from my cable modem through WOW.

56k land
56k land

The real line on that graph where the speed should be is about a meter above your screen. This graph is one minute of downloading a PDF. I was getting 56k dial-up speeds through WOW when I should have been getting 15,000k. This is unacceptable. I checked WOWs backbone and it is fast, this shouldn’t be an issue.

I used to be a lineman for the cable companies so I investigated. The connection at the tap (the telephone pole), the ground (my house), and the jack were all in very good shape and only 1 year old.

My computer is hand built by me. It has a 6 core i7 with high quality SSD, 16gb of DDR3 RAM… it is a beast, it is definitely not my computer slowing things down. All of our other devices slow down too.

Maybe it’s the router. Well we have a high-quality “N” router, it is very fast. Even if we bypass the router and go straight into the machine from the modem it is still sluggish.

Well, that leaves the modem… and the modem is a flaming piece of trash. It is a Scientific Atlanta DPC2100R2. It is DOCSIS 1.1 which means it is a dinosaur. That’s 1999 technology. The current standard is DOCSIS 3.0 and if you want any future proofing you really want DOCSIS 3.0 because it supports IPv6. Anything older might leave you in the dark one day.

Flaming turd
The Amazing Flaming Turd! Able to slow the fastest internets!

I called WOW and they were very friendly and not very helpful as usual. I mean they wanted to help, I only had to speak to one person who took care of everything, she troubleshooted with me, took my word when I told her what I’ve done to test on my end.  She offered to get somebody out right away and promised a two hour service window (all better than the competition).  Unfortunately, I had to work too much the coming week and I couldn’t be there for them to come.

I asked her if I upped my service from 15mpbs to 30mbps or 50mbps would I need a new modem. She said that I would, because those speeds aren’t achievable on my old flaming turd of a modem. She went on to suggest that I could even buy my own modem and save the monthly lease fee.

Sidenote||| AT&T is usually 45 minutes of getting transferred around to 8 different people, telling your story over again, and getting no help in the end. Comcast is a sales call to them no matter what you called for. They will only help you buy something.

 I started to look into that as an option. As it turns out I have been wrong. I thought buying your own modem was a bad idea because 1) You are now locked into that company for life and 2) it will take forever to recoup your investment. Not true at all. I bought this modem based on good reviews.

I pay WOW $7 per month for modem lease. At a $70 investment for the modem it will have paid for itself in 10 months. I would already be saving money by now if I would have done so in the beginning.

Also, it turns out that this modem is transferable to other cable companies as well. So you’re not “stuck”

As far as speed improvements go….


old modem
On old modem



new modem
The new modem

Remember that 56k graph. Look at it now….

fast internet is fast
9 tabs streaming 1080p

I was already streaming music and had 7 other tabs open. I opened one video streaming at 1080p, then at that very first “V” I opened a second, and then a third at the next “V”. Then it caught up and dipped again, so I opened up 7 tabs all streaming 1080p video, it still dipped so I opened 2 more… needless to say the issue is resolved. Happy internets everyone!

Now just waiting for REALLY fast internet! Come on Google or Lightspeed!


Update: I decided to splurge with the savings and spend $5 of the $7 I am saving each month on a bump in service. Look at this….


36 Things That I’m Pretty Sure I’m Sure Are True About Life

These are up for debate, after all, I’m only pretty sure I’m sure these are true. Hopefully you will find some of this helpful.

  1. Do the right thing; Every action/inaction plants a seed that will sprout up.
  2. Never bring up anything to your significant other that they did/didn’t do if you can fix it yourself in 2 minutes or less.
  3. You always learn more when you lose than when you win.
  4. You always learn more when you listen than when you talk.
  5. It is always better to shut up and do your job than to complain about something you are being paid to do.
  6. Crying is emotional vomit. You don’t want to do it, but you always feel better afterwards. It should be encouraged more, not frowned upon.
  7. The simplest answer is always the truth.
  8. Telling the truth sometimes sacrifices short term popularity but gains long term respect.
  9. You should always hear what doubters have to say but almost never listen to them.
  10. If you are disappointed in yourself you are probably looking at yourself too short term.
  11. Failure is usually lack of motivation, not lack of ability.
  12. If you avoid real challenges in your life you will compensate with needless drama.
  13. You can use other peoples glaring personality flaws to help identify miniature versions of that in yourself.
  14. Very caring people often are unrealizingly selfish; They don’t care for themselves, putting the ones they care for at risk of losing their only help. (Is “unrealizingly” is a word?)
  15. Work hard. Be a good steward …but you shouldn’t pay a lot of attention to money; neither when you have a little nor a lot.
  16. You can easily become accustomed to a higher standard of living at any time, but it is quite difficult to lower it. Start simply, live humbly, give generously.
  17. You should turn down most arguments that you are invited to. Winning is overrated.
  18. Actively lower others expectations of you so you don’t become enslaved; actively raise your expectations of yourself for the same reason.
  19. If you ever think “Somebody should do something” then you just became “Somebody”.
  20. In the end, the gossiper always looks worse than the one they spread rumors about.
  21. If facing your fear(s) isn’t on your bucket list, you should add it now. Then do it.
  22. Life favors the passionate over the intelligent.
  23. There are hardly any monsters larger or more ferocious than loneliness. Sadly, most people are there by choice; either a bad choice in someone else or choosing to not improve themselves.
  24. During tragedy, avoiding the elephant in the room only makes things worse. Be courageous.
  25. Take a lot of pictures.
  26. You should never feel ‘above’ washing a toilet.
  27. When you meet someone very confident, they are bluffing.
  28. Most people get their value from the wrong place. Common mistakes are popularity, income, recognition, talent, appearance, etc. We should get it from something more stable and lasting.
  29. Your gut instinct is usually right, your knee-jerk reaction is usually wrong. You can apply patience and learn to recognize the difference.
  30. Joy is something that must be held with two hands, that is, you must let go of other things to hold onto it.
  31. The easiest way to get somebody behind your idea is to make them think it is there own.
  32. You should figure out what you want to do before you figure out if it’s possible.
  33. You can’t trust anybody, it is always a risk. Now that that’s established, go take risks; some are worth it.
  34. Everybody in your life deserves to have an occasional bad day patiently and completely pardoned.
  35. Treat everybody based on who you are, not who they are.
  36. Don’t take earthly things so seriously; it’s not like we’re getting out alive.